Usually delivered in days? Only for plus members Get exciting benefits. Summary of the Book In this book, Doreen Virtue speaks about how to speak up, especially when it's against one's nature to do so. How to be Loving Instead of ''To Add 3 Items to Cart. This book is definitely for earth angels who reads this awesome book will understand , thank you. It's a book that tells you what you wish you were taught when you were growing up. It helps you come to terms with your guilt when you say "no" to someone and helps you understand why it is so difficult to say "no" in the first place for "too nice" people.
I have benefited greatly from this book personally have have distributed it to many a friends. Highly recommend it to those who struggle everyday with the burden of trying to be themselves and being "too nice"! Anubhuti Rattan Maini 7 Jul, I have been healing with trees for as long as I can remember, so I liked that this practice was recognized and included in this book for others to connect and benefit with.
A few quotes I enjoyed or thought that others would benefit from reading: The more you explain why, the more leverage the other person has, which he or she can use to manipulate you into changing that no into a yes. The honest answer to this question can help reveal hidden fears of which you were unaware. It is a crystal that resonates with energy vibrations. Your life purpose could be the one to change the world and save the entire planet…Power comes from God, plain and simple. Since you can never be detached from this power, no one can block you from it-that is, unless you give it away.
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Review featured on www. Feb 06, Annie Hurley rated it it was amazing. No one deserves that power over you. When I first read the table of contents of Assertiveness for Earth Angels: Not too far into the book I was wondering: Once you finish reading this book, you will have a crystal clear idea of the differences between passive, passive-aggressive, aggressive, and assertive behaviors, and will understand why it is essential for all of us to strengthen our assertiveness muscles.
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We not only have a right to feel the ways we feel, but a responsibility to ourselves and others to honestly express our feelings and opinions. A major theme of this book is the concept of personal power. Allowing others to define us, fearing them, and asking for permission to follow our dreams are all ways that we might be giving away our power. Virtue explains that it is peaceful to be powerful, and being powerful encompasses honoring our feelings and standing up for ourselves while respecting others' rights. We are not doormats. We must create and maintain healthy boundaries with others.
By having our own boundaries, we are teaching others that they can have their own healthy boundaries. Saying no to someone doesn't have to necessarily be a bad thing.
Assertiveness for Earth Angels: How to Be Loving Instead of "Too Nice"
There is also a good amount of discussion of people-pleasing one of the chapters I was eager to get to. Virtue provides excellent explanations as to why people-pleasers have developed their habits, and explains why the assertive approach is a much better way to live. What a relief to hear that faking being okay with things that are not okay is detrimental in every direction. There is a better way, starting with practicing expressing honest feelings once a day.
Assertiveness for Earth Angels provides plenty of real life examples of things one could do today to start feeling more valued and less walked-over. There is a chapter that provides very detailed descriptions of the different types of energy-draining personalities we might come into contact with, and how to effectively handle interactions with them or discontinue the relationship, when necessary. I had never heard the phrase "green flags" before, but I really liked that as a way of thinking about following inner guidance.
Assertiveness for Earth Angels: How to Be Loving Instead of "Too Nice" by Doreen Virtue
I wasn't expecting this book to get into practical advice about how to pursue your dreams, but I was pleasantly surprised when it did. Virtue simplifies the whole mess of "is there enough time? There is never a perfect time. The perfect day to work towards our dreams is today, without question! I would recommend approaching this book with an open mind. There may be some ideas or concepts that seem "out-there", but I am glad I didn't let that stop me from learning all of the amazing lessons this book has to offer.
I loved every minute of it, and copied out plenty of quotes to refer back to. This was the first book I have read by Doreen Virtue, although I have seen and heard her speak. I will definitely be checking out her other books after this one. I end with the ultimate call to action from Ms.
Pull your weight, get to work, do your share, and help the rest of us. There are real-world issues that need your attention, now! Feb 19, Shannon L.
Gonzalez rated it it was amazing. Doreen Virtue is known for blending her psychological background with her belief in the Angelic realm. This book is a prime example of blending of those beliefs. However, anyone that needs to be assertive can benefit from the lessons taught here within. When their rage eventually rises at the injustice, they become aggressive to their great detriment. It does teach that by withholding emotions, virtually shutting down, it is their own way of manipulating relationships or attempting to control them. Basically, it boils down to control. The advantage-takers control when the nice earth angels want to help too much.
In the end, this book is about communication. Learning to communicate effectively so a generous person is not taken advantage of, and hopefully that an advantageous person sees how they affect overly-generous people. This book has little gems of wisdom throughout. It hits on many types of personality that would fit into these stereotypes of being generous. Enabling people, Co-dependent, Rescuers, etc. This book can help those who believe in the angelic realm or not. The psychological help in being assertive without being aggressive will appeal to many in our society.
It is a wonderful look into the psyche and all of its complications as a result of societal conditioning. It is a relationship book that teaches how to communicate effectively, but also to bring to light how others affect us by their actions and conversely how our actions affect others. To see other works by Doreen Virtue visit her website at: Feb 17, Deanna Joseph rated it it was amazing.
Easy to understand explanations of assertiveness vs. Also a great chapter on certain behaviors, why tolerating people with those behaviors is harmful, and how to handle people with those behaviors; ie.
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Definitely written from a new age point of view, and her audience is those who are highly sensitive. What an inspiring book! I'm neither a religious person nor arrogant enough to think my truth would be the only reality. I felt skeptic and embarrassed to start reading this book, but I was so curious that I couldn't resist.
I succeed to keep open mind and I enjoyed reading this book very much. I got very inspired. I need to write myself a note including quotes from this book to remind myself this energetic and inspired feeling I have now right after finishing reading this book. I warmly recommen What an inspiring book! I warmly recommend this book to "too nice" people, even if you don't consider yourself a religious person.
This book has very practical ideas how to stand your ground, how to take care of yourself and motivation why. I was especially inspired to learn interesting point of view of ego and addictions.
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I'm very happy that I got past my prejudice and read this book. Jan 13, Kelly rated it it was amazing. I was intrigued by this book. I will do some of the work that she mentions. I need to clear my energies so that I can become what I am meant to do. It was a very insightful book. It spoke to my soul, gave me a clear perspective on what my life purpose can be. I am a different kind of human, and the kind I am makes me a little weird or strange, but that's ok. I now have a better understanding of who I am, and what I am suppose to do even if fear is in my way, the Ego of the mind gets in the way I was intrigued by this book.
I now have a better understanding of who I am, and what I am suppose to do even if fear is in my way, the Ego of the mind gets in the way a lot, some times certain people do to, but if no one ever failed they wouldn't strive to be better. I am working on self improvement, so I can be a better lightworker for the planet and for our future, so that is the reason I gave this book five stars. I am definitely going to buy a hard copy of this book for future references.
May 05, Andreea In Bookland rated it it was amazing. This is such a beautiful and helpful book. Are you a sensitive person? I'm usually sad when someone hurts, I feel horrible when animals suffer and I feel terrible when something bad happens I try to help, and when I can't do anything to change the bad in good, I tend to get sad, sometimes I even blame myself for not being able to change things. You'll discover how to overcome fears about saying no, and how to ask for what you want from those around you an the universe! Dec 31, Luminea rated it it was amazing Shelves: I loved this book!
It helped me to realize that I am not alone in how I feel or the experiences I have had in my life. Doreen offered a lot of good food for thought and made me aware of ways that I can be assertive and powerful. I am grateful for the insights that I received. This is an example of you taking action because you love your child. In personal situations, being genuine can bring blessings, too. So, you whisper to the friend next to you: Because you had the courage to speak up, the evening is saved!
You leave the movie early and go to a restaurant and enjoy a nice meal together instead. But because you had the courage to speak up, you actually helped your friends.
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Speaking up simply means that you own your feelings and state them clearly without blaming anyone else and without anger or sarcasm in your statements. People-pleasing is a form of being controlling and manipulative. It stems from fear, not from love. People-pleasing comes from a place of unworthiness and undeserving feelings. Everyone and everything that God creates has divinity and inherent natural beauty and uniqueness.
How drab and boring would it be if everyone was alike?